This is part of something I posted about a year ago on Facebook. My original post was about the apparent inability of some of my peers to “adult” on a regular basis… I’ve had those days, and I’m sure you have too. Some of us have a series of these kinds of days that morph into months and even years. I found myself in that place for a while, and the following was a list of short reflections on simple solutions to the attitude that characterized those days. Feel free to try any of these, or better yet, to write your own list. ~ Stay Blessed.
Things that have been on my mind:
Why is that the almost forty group is just now complaining about adulting…
C’mon, we’ve been doing this for 20+ years now!
It’s never been easier…
we’re the bosses of our lives that we wanted to be when we were kids;
we have more services and technology and daily luxuries than any other generation.
Maybe it’s not that adulting is so terrible, but that we’ve forgotten how to create our own fun instead of buying it and forgotten how to have deep interpersonal connection and service to each other instead of memes and giving money instead of time and attention…
We are the last generation to have had a childhood that wasn’t automated and virtual.
Time to be grateful for what we have and show our gratitude by re-connecting with ourselves and our tribes when adulting gets too hard.
Go build that fort and color. Go ahead and dye your hair green. Go play some games that have nothing to do with a screen. Read a book, meditate, keep a journal, dance… then go do something for your elders and something for your kids.
Have a conversation with someone when you volunteer at the soup kitchen.
Let your parents and kids talk to you instead of talking to them.
Get your hands dirty and grow something.
Have a conversation with some about their experience as another race, another religion, or political persuasion without trying to change their mind… change yours instead.
Write a letter, not just an email or social media post.
Laugh at yourself when you make mistakes, and admit them instead of hiding them.
Give a stranger a genuine compliment.
Most of all, treat yourself a little less seriously and a little more lovingly.